This is an Open Letter to the Parent whose kid scored badly in their exams this Christmas.
The exams are over and schools are almost closing the 2017 academic year. Your children will bring reports home this week. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well.
What’s the meaning of “doing well?”
Please do remember, amongst the children who sat for the exams, is an Artist, who doesn’t need to understand Maths. There’s an Entrepreneur, who doesn’t care about History or English literature. There’s a Musician, whose Chemistry marks won’t matter.
There’s a Sportsperson, whose physical fitness is more important than Physics. There are farmers who feed the society. There are teachers who stand head and shoulders above all.
If your child does get top marks, then great. But, if he/she doesn’t, please don’t take away their self- confidence and dignity from them.
Tell them it’s okay, it was just an exam. They are cut out for much bigger things in life. Tell them, no matter what they score, you love them and will not judge them by that singular act. Tell them there are other criteria.
Please do this and if you do, watch your children conquer the world. One exam or a 90% marks won’t take away their dreams and talent.
And please, do not think that doctors and engineers are the only happy people in the world. Think of Usain Bolt, Dolly Parton, Bill Gates, Christiano Ronaldo and Innoson motors, Aminu Dantata, Abiola etc. They don’t have degrees. And think of those who got low grades, but later made it in life like Ben Carson.
Be happy for them when they come home with those reports this week. Encourage them to do better. Motivate those who were not successful. There’s beauty in going back and giving it another shot. Don’t judge them based on that. They expect of you, their mother, their father, most of all to understand and to still believe in them.
Failing a grade can never make your child a failure. Their destinies lie locked up in far greater things.
Happy holiday to them and to their teachers. Merry Christmas in advance to you all.